In this electronic, constantly connected world we live in, it is increasingly difficult to find a profession that requires a person to turn off their cell phone and shut down all communication for hours at a time. If he does work in one of the remaining fields that requires him to be out of touch, you may just have to come to terms with your “trust issues”.

But if not, and you are hearing excuses that are increasingly difficult to swallow, it may be time to look into his past relationships.

Public Marriage Records Online Give You Answers

Marriage is a legal contract between two adults that creates a union. People marry for all sorts of different reasons; emotional, legal, financial to name a few. There are also all sorts of reasons to end a marriage, although “irreconcilable differences” seems to be the most common.

As with all legal contracts, marriage records are recorded at the local courthouse just like birth and death records, as well as criminal records.

Why Go in Person When You Can Search Marriage Records Online?

Going down to the local courthouse may seem like the obvious way to determine a person’s marital status; running a close second to simply asking the person. But if you are suspicious that they may have something to hide, you may want to check any place that they have lived or even mentioned. This can lead to a lot of phone calls and a lot of different courthouses red tape and fees.

Find Marriage Records Online and Put Your Mind at Ease

Finding marriage records online can be quick and easy when using the right tools. If you are already feeling uneasy about your lover’s relationship status and their honesty with you, don’t compound your frustrations by putting yourself through the wringer dealing with multiple public service employees.

Who, in their right mind, would choose to go to multiple courthouses requesting information? Most people avoid dealing with public service employees as much as they can. Take a load off your shoulders and let someone else do the legwork for you when you look for marriage records online.

An affair to remember
The Clinton-Lewinsky affair rocked America and became one of the biggest news stories around the world.  It also thrust his wife Hillary into the spotlight, albeit in a less than desirable manner.  The affair has since ended, Bill Clinton has since completed his two terms as president and Hillary has gone on to pursue her own political aspirations.  Through it all, the presidential shenanigan failed to break what is now viewed as a marriage and a partnership.

In trying to explain her decision to remain loyal to her husband despite multiple extramarital relationships in the past, Hillary says that she had to examine and consider what she felt was the right thing to do not just for herself but also for her family.  That ‘right’ thing turned out to be to stay with her husband in spite of his two-timing ways.

Today, the affair that once threatened their marriage seems like a footnote in their lives. 

Why women stay with husbands who cheat
Every woman’s relationship is unique and as such, how one reacts to a similar situation might or might not be the norm for others.  While there are women who will pack up and go once her partner so much as looks in the other direction, there are also women who, like Hillary Clinton, choose to stay in a relationship.

Some reasons include:

Love
There are women who feel strongly about their husbands.  While they may have felt hurt by their spouse’s betrayal, they love their husband too much to let go of the relationship.

Family
Some women will forsake the pain caused by their husband’s affair just to keep the family together and protect their children.

Money
Being too financially dependent on their husbands prevent women from leaving, afraid that if they don’t stay in the relationship, they would not be able to cope on their own.

Fear
Fear can be a strong alibi for women who stay with husbands who cheat.  It can be about anything – the fear of being ridiculed, fear of becoming alone, fear of the unknown, particularly if they have no other permanent relationships or support systems besides their marriage.

Religion
In this day and age, some women still feel they have to stay in a relationship with a cheating husband because their faith or belief system prevents them from doing so.

Infidelity has taken on a new avenue: the information superhighway. Flirting through email and other online communication means have been a growing concern for a lot of spouses who suspect that their partners are not just tethered in the office, they’re also up to no good.

Online affairs are indeed prevalent in many workplaces around the world. But, it can certainly be avoided if each employee sees to it that they keep his or her relationship with a colleague is within the professional context.

Here are 10 rules to live by for avoiding emotional infidelity at work from iVillage.com:

1. The office is a place for professional concerns, not personal. Leave all emotional and personal issues at home, and just think business when at work.
2. To avoid the possibility of an office affair, don’t invite trouble. Avoid meeting up with colleagues of the opposite sex outside the workplace.
3. Make it a point to meet in groups. Avoid one-on-one meetings as much as you can.
4. Don’t encourage personal conversations, which can lead to emotional infidelity.
5. If you can’t avoid personal chit-chat, don’t develop a consistent relationship. You don’t have to always tell just one colleague about your vacation, or other personal stories.
6. It’s always safe to steer clear of personal conversations.
7. Stop thinking that things are innocent and harmless.
8. Avoid physical contact or physical acts of affection where members of the opposite sex are involved. Even innocent hugs or a peck on the cheek can ignite a flame.
9. Avoid alcohol when in the company of colleagues of the opposite sex.
10. Do something special for your partner everyday. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. Even a simple phone call or a short note on the fridge would do the trick.

Remember, the office is the place for professional commitments. Keep your emotional commitments where it should be.

Infidelity is overwhelmingly prevalent even to this day. The number of reasons why men and women cheat on their spouses vary as much as the number of people involved. Some blame their hormones. Some blame their differences with their spouses. Some reasons are emotional and some are deeply financial. Some are even psychological. Whatever the reasons are the fact that cheating on spouses could victimize anyone anywhere remains true.

Polls have shown that 90 percent of people have expressed disapproval of extramarital affairs although 15 percent of women and 25 percent of men have experienced infidelity. Emotional affairs and relationships that do not include sexual intercourse could jack up these numbers. In other studies related to men and women’s thoughts on extra-marital affairs, men tend to feel comfortable about having sex outside their marriage if they are certain that they don’t love the women with whom they are having affairs with while eloping women tend to feel less guilty about having sex outside of the their relationship if they feel that they are in-love with the person with whom they are having affairs with and not with their husbands.

Sad but true. These facts and figures are not going to hit a plateau anytime soon nor are these going to decline. Experts believe that these numbers pertaining to infidelity are going to increase thanks to modern day technology which helped eloping take on a new avenue. Things aren’t going to change positively, unless concerned spouses become deeply and consciously aware of where their relationships are headed.

Let’s take a look at sexual infidelity. It’s especially hard to prove that a spouse is involved in sexual affairs. Sexual cues without emotional attachments are hard to determine especially if your partner only had a one-night stand with someone else. Nonetheless, here are some of the sexual cues of a cheating spouse that I came across with:

• Unaccounted for use of erectile dysfunction medications (e.g., viagra)
• Unaccounted for use of birth control (e.g., missing condoms)
• Unexplained discovery or loss of items of clothing
• Unexplained hiding of clothes or sudden interest in doing the laundry
• Unexplained stains in underwear
• Unaccounted for or unexplainable loss of time

And on some occasions:

• a temporary increase or sudden interest in having sex
• a sudden change in sexual behavior (e.g., wanting to experiment, etc.).

As mentioned, these are sexual cues but without emotional attachments. One has to be stealthily quick in finding out these cues upon suspecting that your spouse may be cheating.

There are a lot of myths concerning infidelity. These myths were purported by some people for them to justify an affair. Some people, in order to justify the affair and cover their guilt, claim that they have ultimately fallen out of love. They blame their partners for being deficient in many ways, causing them to fall out of love, thus they search for emotional and sexual satisfaction from someone else. Truth is, some of these people who have such claims are still in love with their spouses; they just couldn’t resist the urge. What they really out of is focus, not love, for their spouses.

Some people’s justifications concerning infidelity are rather extreme. They claim that having an affair is somehow good. It could even save a marriage on the rocks. But is this really so? Can one correct a wrong with another wrong? Do you douse a fire with a high-octane gasoline? Unless the one who made such claims was born yesterday, I don’t think we have to present all the facts gathered to point out that in many circumstances, infidelity cannot save a troubled marriage. In fact, as was shown in a lot of cases, it could aggravate the troubles the marriage may already be into.

Infidelity is infidelity. Whatever the causes might have been, the fact remains that cheating on a spouse is downright wrong and could not be justified by any deficiencies a spouse may have. After all, who goes to jail, the burglar or the owner of the house who left his window wide open?

Almost a decade ago, a study showed that 22 percent of those surveyed were married men who have cheated at least once during their marriage, as opposed to only 14 percent of married women. Remember, these were the figures almost a decade ago. Today, the numbers are even higher due to the increasing number of women in the workplace (this has been proven to be one of the factors why a lot of women these days stray away from their partners) and the increase in number of women who have had Internet affairs as Internet use have more than doubled over the years since then.

Ironically, according to the same study, although the prevalence of infidelity has steadily risen, 90 percent of Americans believe that infidelity or adultery is wrong. It merely shows that even the most conscientious among us, if caught off-guard, could still fall victim to adultery. In fact, 17 percent of divorces in the

The facts are around us and they’re quite disturbing. I shudder at the thought that one day, I or my spouse would fall victim to such temptation. Well, I guess that remains to be seen. With vigilance, proactive attitude and maintaining an open line of communication with your spouse and keeping the fire alive, I suppose each couple could beat infidelity by a huge margin.

It’s noteworthy to discuss issues such as why some spouses cheat, how to improve your relationship with your spouse to avoid infidelity and how to catch a cheating spouse. Discussing why a spouse should not cheat should also be given equal importance as this is tantamount to avoiding falling into the devastating trap of infidelity.

Paul Davis, in his compelling article, shows us five reasons why we should not cheat on our spouses as follows:

1. There’s a very big chance that you might get physically hurt, or worse, killed. You can never tell how a jilted spouse will react once he or she catches you red-handed. So if I were you, I wouldn’t even think about cheating.
2.  Your conscience will be constantly bothered by what you are doing. We all know cheating is wrong, and if you still do it, you will be in a constant state of fear. Your conscience will never let you be. Imagine the torment, and the endless looking over your shoulder to make sure no one is watching.
3. Cheating on your spouse is tantamount to wrecking your own family.We all know the effects that cheating has on families. Once the children find out, your entire family will be divided and destroyed. Divorce will also be a possibility. Is this really what you want?
4.  Cheating and adultery will definitely ruin your reputation. When you cheat, you breach a trust and a bond that has been formed. If you’re married, you just went back on your word. You promised to love someone for better or for worse, but you’re cavorting with someone else. Once everyone finds out, it will be very hard to have people trust your word again.
5.  Think of the golden rule. Don’t do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you. Once you cheat, you open yourself to the possibility of having someone cheat on you too. Don’t think that just because you’ve done it to someone, it can’t happen to you.

I urge each spouse to have these reasons written on something and posted conspicuously in your home to remind you why you shouldn’t cheat on your spouse.

I came across an interesting article which takes a look at who cheats more in a relationship; men or women? I can sense that the question raises a lot of eyebrows. I can only apologize for bringing this up but I’m sure a lot of people are aware of the survey by Cosmopolitan which shows cheating women are more in numbers than cheating men. I tried so hard to be very objective in reading the survey. But don’t get me wrong. The survey did not, in any way, diminish my regard for women. I still admire the qualities women possess. I still personally think that they are the stronger sex, emotionally, that is.

According to the poll by Cosmo 59 percent of women who participated in the online poll admitted that they have cheated on a partner. Cosmo interviewed relationship therapist Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph. D., to find out why women tend to cheat more than men. Dr. Weil gave the following clarified the issues by providing these reasons:

• We women are suckers for that “high,” that feeling we get when we’re in love with someone new. Relationships that have gone on for years will of course feel less exciting than a new one. But let’s not forget that a relationship that has lasted years means there is something there that cannot be filled by a new and exciting affair.
• Some women also cheat just to get attention. Sometimes, men who have gotten quite used to a relationship might take a woman for granted, prompting the woman to look for attention at the next available guy, which will give her better attention than her husband or long-time boyfriend.
• When women feel stressed about their man, they may want to let the pressure steam off by showering another guy with attention. It’s a way of relieving stress. It’s not right, but it’s an explanation.

We can’t discount the fact, though, that there are other polls out there that will show us otherwise. So now, gentlemen, we know who cheats more (at least based on these facts) and we know why women cheat. Girls who are taken for granted are more likely to cheat than those who get all the attention that they need. Women who are under a lot of stress need a dude to be with to cast all her worries away. Are you the man your wife can lean on whenever she’s all burned out? Do you give her all the attention that she needs? Given all this, be the man that your wife craves for and don’t let her look for someone else, making you look like loser.

A lot of relationships that were once promising at the onset but were later on plagued and eventually destroyed by infidelity could have been salvaged. Some spouses, upon seeing a hint that their spouses are slowly drifting away almost automatically place themselves in the state of denial, not wanting to believe that a nightmare is creeping in. They just don’t want to deal with it head on for fear that things could get worse until it’s too late.

The cues that tell your spouse is cheating on you could show through a lot of aspects or only one. The signs could be apparent on your spouse’s sexual behavior, the way he or she treats you or your children, or changes in the way he/she sees him/herself.

Here are some sexual clues of infideltiy from Truth About Deception:

• Using erectile dysfunction medications in secret.
• Missing condoms, or finding your wife suddenly taking the pill without telling you.
• Finding another person’s item of clothing, or noticing that there are some clothes of your spouse’s that you haven’t seen in a while.
• The cheating spouse suddenly exhibits a keen interest in doing the laundry, to avoid having their clothes scrutinized for clues or possible stains or marks from their latest rendvous.
• Having less time for you or for the family.
• Drastic change in sexual behavior, and a sudden interest in experimenting with sexual styles.

In Warning Signs of Cheating Spouse, the following clues are enumerated among others:

• Having a restless and discontented spouse, and he or she doesn’t hide it. He or she could be losing interest in your marriage or in your family.
• Your spouse suddenly has an interest in more dangerous and exciting pursuits.
• He or she could be exhibiting signs of low self-esteem, hence the need for an affair.
• Your spouse is often confused about his or her decisions.
• Laziness and lack of contribution in household concerns.
• There is a serious lack of communication from his or her end.
• Your spouse has suddenly lost interest in attending family occasions.
  
• Finding that your spouse has been lying about certain events or so-called work meetings.

Heed the warning signs before it’s too late. Only you can salvage your relationship if it means a lot to you.