To Catch Your Cheating Spouse

Valentine’s Day was not a good one this year for Basanti, an Indian woman who was found murdered, and allegedly because of her supposed infidelity. Basanti was found near a petrol pump. She was a resident of a slum, mother to three children, and wife to Narasingha Jena, a man who is now under suspicion for her murder. Jena, age forty-three, is said to have dumped the body of his dead wife near the area before he burned it. Basanti’s remains have now been sent to a lab for a post-mortem review.

According to the preliminary investigation, the husband killed his wife, and then tried to burn her body afterward. The man is an auto-rickshaw driver, and he married his late wife almost a decade ago. A daughter and two sons completed their family. A few months ago, he had rented out part of his house to a man named Balakrishna; this man then had an illicit relationship with Basanti. Narasingha Jena had been hitherto unaware of the affair, until he caught Basanti and Balakrishna in the act only on the night before he murdered her in anger.

Both Balakrishna and Narasingha Jena are now missing. Balakrishna, moreover, cannot be traced (http://www.telegraphindia.com/1080215/jsp/nation/story_8903059.jsp).

There are very few statistics that deal with crimes of passion, and often, people think that such crimes exist only in the movies. Sadly, the human heart being what it is, crimes of passion are still quite replete, and many persons all over the world find themselves acting crazily after witnessing their spouses committing the grave, sometimes unforgivable act of adultery. Sometimes, even suspicion can drive a good many crimes to completion.

According to the National Center for Health Statistics (available through its official website at http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/), about half of the marriages in 2001 ended in divorce. It would be wrong to assume that all these marriages ended because of cheating, but it is tempting to impute such knowledge given the abundance of cheating cases.

If you are suspicious about your husband and wife cheating on you, start looking for telltale signs first before you jump to any conclusions – and keep your temper in check or you might end up behind bars for the rest of your life! Watch out for Valentine’s Day, when your spouse might have to find dozens of excuses to meet up with his or her lover. If you confront your cheating spouse about the issue of cheating in other couples, watch for his or her reaction: supporting cheating and its different permutations might be a sign that your spouse is trying to find justification for his or her actions.