Signs of a Cheating Spouse – the Carnage After Hearts’ Day

Are you suspecting that your spouse is having an extramarital affair? Are you afraid that your spouse is cheating on you and completely draining your savings to pay for his or her indiscretions? You can start looking for the signs after Valentine’s Day, says Ruth Houston, through her book “Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs.” Believe it or not, a cheating spouse can actually reveal his or her weaknesses just after hearts’ day comes along.

Houston, with her Valentine’s Day Infidelity Awareness Campaign, which happens annually, has much to say about the post-Valentine’s hoopla that can surround the concealment of an affair. You simply need to know what to look for in order to see if your spouse is indeed keeping something from you. For instance, if you discovered a hidden gift before Valentine’s Day, but it wasn’t given to you, and it also disappeared, then you can be sure that your spouse is cheating on you. If you find that your spouse purchases two identical gifts (reflected on receipts), and if you find purchase receipts for romantic gifts that you did not receive, such as lingerie or jewelry, or worse, if you find receipts for gifts that never found their way to you, then you can start suspecting that something is awry.

Husbands, if your wives have romantic gifts on hand, such as lingerie or jewelry, but have no receipt to show for it despite the fact that they claim that they bought it for themselves, then you can start suspecting something. Are you finding restaurant receipts for places that you didn’t go to on the dates leading to and immediately after the 14th? What about hotels or motels? Telephone bills with numbers you don’t know, and showing calls made on V-Day?

According to the National Center for Health Statistics, as many as half the marriages per one thousand people ended in divorce in 2001 in the US. Although not all of these involved a cheating spouse, you can suspect that some amount of cheating came into play. And although the numbers of cheating spouses is rising, Houston says that confrontation should not be the first line of defense or offense. Always look for additional proof, she says, before jumping to conclusions. This way, you can keep your marriage intact should your suspicions be unfounded – and have substantial proof in order to confront your spouse well enough should you indeed want to do so.