Even Pop Stars Have Marital Problems: Cheryl Cole Is Taking Time Off From Cheating Spouse

You think you have marital problems? Well, you are definitely not alone. Even pop stars with highly publicized profiles have it bad as well – real bad.

Cheryl Cole, English singer and member of the TV-bred girl group Girls Aloud took a breather from errant husband Ashley Cole: Chelsea football team’s left back player. Reports have it that the brunette bombshell packed her travel cases with fellow band mates and scooted off to Thailand. Cole’s departure is seen as a blatant attempt to get away from the blistering controversy surrounding her husband’s alleged overtime in the bedchambers. ()

Now, this is a classic example of the flight syndrome that many betrayed women succumb to. However, unlike Cheryl Cole who actually has the money and gumption to take one month off from work and travel to someplace exotic, many women simply pack up their bags and go – anywhere, away from their wayward husbands, from prying eyes and from wagging tongues.

Unfortunately, according to some relationship experts, women should temper their flight instincts during this critical time. The key to getting more irrefutable proof of your partner’s philandering ways is to stay put and (if you are staying under one roof) make him stay put as well. Leaving him or putting him out of your domicile will only make you obsess over what he is doing when he is away. It might even lead you to do something as drastic and dramatic as confronting the other woman to keep away from your man. ()

Of course, you can always hire a private investigator to some leg work for you, but it would be best if you yourself can keep an eye on him. Try knowing his extra marital routine, and track down the times he says he’s working overtime. List them down in a journal (and keep it away from him, of course.) Sooner or later, you will have enough evidence to confront him and then you would have the upper hand. Don’t confront him if you have nothing but hearsay and suspicion because that is a waste of time.

And don’t confront the other offending party as well. Not only will you bring your husband to her defense, it will also put you in the bad-guy limelight. Besides, if you two are still residing in one domicile, there might be a chance of you reconciling your affairs – that is, if you still want to.

Nevertheless, flight is more than understandable; and in Cheryl Cole’s case, even justifiable. As of the last count, three women had already stepped forward claiming that Ashley Cole had put in the extra hours with them. Further more, all three women have gone so far as to allege that left backer had proffered “overtime pay:” one, for abortion money during a pregnancy scare (only a  scare) and the other two supposedly accepted hush compensations.

According to reports, the pop singer was extremely affected and spent one month off in the East to contemplate whether her marriage to the English footballer is worth saving or not. Apparently, she thought she could do better by moving on. Not only were there reports that she smashed her mobile phone so that Ashley couldn’t worm his way out of the situation, but that she had already filed for divorce from her husband; and that she had been spotted trying out the L.A. scene without that little thing called the wedding ring.

In your case, though, don’t go mouthing off his infidelity for everyone to hear. It is true that sometimes we need to confide in someone about matters as grave as this. But you need to be careful as to whom you should confide in, and when you should do so. Some hurts may never heal, and this jus may come back to haunt you.