Cheaters Revealed: Expert Advice Warns of 6 After-Christmas Signs Your Mate is Cheating

Is Christmas a good time for your mate to cheat?  Ruth Houston, head and founder of the infidelity watch website InfidelityAdvice.com, says yes.  And it’s a good time for you to catch them at it, too.  Houston has written the definitive manual for catching cheaters, ‘Is He Cheating on You?’ which details not just 101 but over 800 ‘telltale signs’ that a lover may not be that faithful.  Recently, she offered more advice to partners who suspect that their mate is sowing some wild oats on the side.  ‘Tis the season to be jolly?  Probably not, if you see these signs on your mate:

1.  You found a Christmas gift that you presumed was yours until it disappeared on Christmas Day.
Maybe you did the snooping deliberately or maybe you came across the gift by accident.  Whichever, you just assumed that the gift was intended for you.  However, Christmas Day came and went and there’s no sign of the gift.  It somehow disappeared and you see no signs of it in your family members – not in your mother, father, siblings, children or even aunts. 

Gifts like these are often purchased on the sly, with buyer having the intention to give the gift to someone else, other than you.  If your spouse or partner is trying to win over a boss or a client, that should explain the gift but then, he should have told you that in the first place.  If the gift is unexplained, it could be a sign your mate is cheating on you.

2.  You found a receipt for not one but two gifts that are exactly the same.
Some cheating spouses are lazy enough not to give much thought to their purchase.  Some of them might actually be having an affair with a person who has the same tastes as you.  This will probably explain why your mate will buy identical gifts – one for you and one for the other man or woman.

Check the receipt to see if the gifts are truly one and the same.  If the gift is to be given to another member of your family, that’s probably okay but if it’s unaccounted for, be wary.

3.  A thank you note for a Christmas gift you knew nothing about.
Another after-Christmas sign that your mate is cheating is that sweet, short thank-you note from the recipient of his generosity.  If your spouse is planning on giving an innocent or well-intentioned gift to another person (man or woman), he should tell you about it.  If he/she keeps it a Christmas secret, there must be a good reason for it.  Otherwise, he/she should have mentioned it to you.

4.  You discover personal gifts to another person.
Personal gifts are stuff that are a bit intimate, personalized or expensive.  Stuff like intimate apparel, lingerie or even jewelry.  Fine if they are headed in your direction but if they make a U-turn to arrive on someone else’s lap, Houston says it could be a sign your mate is cheating.  Sure, Christmas is a time for giving but for those kinds of gifts, your spouse better have a good explanation.

5.  You find expensive gifts that your spouse receives.
If your spouse is an important person, you’re probably used to seeing them receive some expensive stuff – from a boss, a client, a business partner, etc.  However, if that expensive gift seems out of place (your mate doesn’t have a generous boss, can ill-afford to pay for the item or doesn’t have a rich cousin in Alaska), ask where the gift was from.  If your partner claims they bought it themselves, they should be able to produce a receipt or some proof that they did.

6.  Credit card statements showing purchase of gift items you never received.
This will come later, but infidelity expert Houston says it’s a clear after-Christmas sign that you have a cheating mate.  Gifts of this kind are usually expensive, which explains why they were charged to your spouse’s credit card.  If you didn’t receive them, who did?