No Way Out? Using Infidelity to Exit Unhappy Marriage

Marriages can be so simple to get into but very complicated to get out of, particularly if the partner had been a great companion for a long time. However, people change and time can make people re-examine their priorities, look into themselves and their lives and sometimes realize they should be someplace else. Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to make corrections and they begin extramarital affairs only to realize it can be the excuse they need. Here are some of the most common alibis when using infidelity as a means of exiting from an unhappy marriage:

It’s your fault.
The exit affair can be a reason to point to your spouse that you had nothing to do with the demise of your marriage. It’s like saying, ‘Don’t blame me – you made me do it!’ followed by a litany of what your spouse did wrong.

This excuse of using infidelity as a means of exiting your unhappy marriage expunges you of the responsibility of making the marriage work. In effect, you are ignoring the fact that you, too, have a part to play in your marriage and may have even caused its failure.

I can’t get no satisfaction.
An unhappy marriage can be a lot of things and the most common deal-breaker is that one or both spouses no longer feel satisfied with what they have or what they’re getting. By having an exit affair, they not only fulfill whatever need they believe is being neglected, they also have a means with which to exit from an unhappy marriage.

It’s not you, it’s me.
By assuring your spouse that the fault is all yours, you avoid the guilt of making your partner of several years feel bad about the failure of your marriage. It’s like saying, ‘Sure, honey, blame it all on me. You’re not the bad guy here, I am. So now give me a divorce.’ Furthermore, you not only show them that your marriage is so unhappy you had to be unfaithful, you also give them a reason not to try to win you back.

It’s been good while it lasted…
Acknowledging the past success of the marriage can make it easy to use infidelity as a means of exiting an unhappy union. This way, you don’t just focus on all the bad things you and your spouse had to put up with during your years together, you also tell them that it’s been fun but you’re with someone else now and that it’s time to let the divorce lawyers do the talking.

References used:
http://www.cheatcatcher.com/how-to-get-a-cheap-divorce/
http://www.helpstartshere.org/Default.aspx?PageID=911
http://www.ehow.com/how_2075308_be-cheat.html