Sleuthing out on your spouse

If one had a hunch that his or her spouse is cheating, should one spy on his or her spouse? It’s all up to you based on your values and commitment to save your relationship. After all, you did not enter your relationship just to have it ruined by someone else. So, how do you catch a cheating spouse?

• You can ultimately hire a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you. But be wary of those that claim to be private eye. Check their credentials first. For many places, their laws require private investigators to obtain a license before practicing the profession. Also, it’s best to check what methods will be involved in tracking down your spouse.
• If your spouse mentions a name fondly and repeatedly, chances are, he or she is fixated to the person. The next time your spouse talks about the person try to get your spouse to talk about that person some more. Get the person’s full name. Do some background check and see what you can make out of the results.
• Use social networking sites such as Friendster or MySpace to track down your spouse (more on this on the next posts). He or she could have registered in one or both of these sites. Try to find out as much about the people with whom he or she has been networking with.
• Once your spouse gets home, try to subtly smell his or her hair or clothes once you greet and hug. Strange scents like perfumes not worn by your spouse could mean he or she could have been hanging out with someone long enough to catch his or her scent on your spouse’s clothes.
• Once your spouse’s cell phone bills are in, check for frequently dialed numbers.
• Spy software could monitor your spouse’s online activities by tracking down emails and recently visited sites.

If you really care about your relationship, do these steps now before it’s too late.